In the last article we talked about male manipulation. But women also skillfully use the weak points of men to get their way.

Frankly, we all sometimes use manipulative techniques. The kid cries, begging for a toy, and his mother says that he will get the toy only if he eats all the porridge; a girl at work pretends to be a "stupid blonde", counting on the help of a colleague ... Often we do this unconsciously, but for some ladies manipulations become a lifestyle.

Female manipulation and ways to protect against them

• "I'll leave you!"

What to do? Accept that your relationship might actually end someday. Stop being afraid of it.

• "You should!"

And now a man begins to confuse his own needs with family needs. And the needs of the family are often just the whim of the capricious wife.

What to do? Include healthy selfishness, do not sacrifice your own interests for the sake of loved ones. Learn to distinguish what is important to you personally and what is important to your family.

• "You are guilty!"

What to do? Have your own point of view "what is good and what is bad." And learn to honestly answer the question: Am I really screwed up or am I just being used?

• "A real man"

What to do? Don't give a damn if you don't fit someone's idea of ​​a "real man."

Women's flattery is capable of twisting ropes from men! It's so nice to feel like a hero. And having become so - to correspond and not to disappoint your beloved. But flattery is precisely aimed at making a man lose his sense of reality. A woman praises not your real qualities, but those that she wants to see in you ... And if you do something in your own way, you often hear: “Oh, I thought you were like that, and you are so!”.

What to do? Assess yourself objectively. Learn to recognize flattery. If you hear compliments for those qualities that you clearly do not have, or for those actions that are unusual for you, the conclusion is simple - they are trying to manipulate you.

What to do? If you like to share everything with your beloved and not receive anything in return - great! If not, step on the throat of your own song and accept only an equal exchange of resources, do not let yourself be used.

• "Poor sheep"

What to do? Learn to refuse if in this case you do not want to help, because your beloved may well cope on her own.

• "I'm offended!"

What to do? We'll have to figure out - where a woman's resentment has a real reason, and where is just a way to force you to do what is beneficial to her.

• "Is it weak?"

What to do? The word "weak" naturally hurts your ambitions, makes you want to prove something. Just think, do you need to prove something to someone? If not, do as you see fit.

Conclusion: if you want to protect yourself from someone else's influence, analyze your own behavior, find your weaknesses. These will be the very "hooks" on which the lady-manipulator hooks you. Work on yourself, strive for independence, and then no one will ever force you to be a pawn in their game.

A more radical option is to end the relationship with this woman and put yourself differently in the new relationship from the very beginning. You decide.

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