Adultery: why women cheat

MAN AND WOMAN

A woman lives for love. You can argue, choking on foam, but no money, power, world achievements or beauty can replace her simple and quiet happiness of being loved. When she feels that she is desirable for a man, that they genuinely admire her, want to protect and adore her, then she opens up like a rose capable of any feats. She becomes the most charming and simply radiating happiness. But, if there is no love in her life - then beware! Perhaps it is too late to ask the questions: “why do women cheat” or “why do wives cheat on their husbands”?

Why women cheat - the psychology of infidelity

Discussing the topic of female infidelity, we came to the conclusion that many women commit adultery not because they are dissolute by nature, but because they are looking for love and recognition, they want to feel alive. To some extent, cheating is provoked not by the lack of moral standards, but by the woman's low self-esteem.

Relationship development at the beginning of the crisis

Most often, our heroine enters into a relationship, being initially disharmonious. No one in the family teaches her to value herself, recognize her merits and forgive minor flaws. She gets used to relying on the opinion of her parents in everything, who consider her insufficiently beautiful, intelligent or worthy of praise, which is why the girl grows up with a huge sense of guilt, a sense of her own inferiority and unattractiveness. Her parents did not instill in her a sense of self-love - and this will become the root of problems in adulthood.

Then she meets a man who falls in love with her, so imperfect, not stingy with praise, luxurious bouquets and grandiloquent poems. In fact, the partner simply wins her favor, and she gives up - falls in love with his words about herself, with the state that he broadcasts. The trouble is that, having received the trophy, men for the most part stop trying and let the relationship take its course. Why say tenderness and make gifts when the goal has already been achieved, the woman is already his? So routine returns to the relationship, and the woman again experiences self-doubt.

And the brainwash begins with stupid questions: "I don't seem fat to you?" "Do you still love me or is it a habit?" "Let's talk about our feelings." She does not raise such topics out of boredom, but because she has ceased to receive confirmation from a man that she is loved. It seems to her that the partner no longer has any feelings. And the husband, instead of supporting, begins to brush off her attacks, or even worse - to lose his temper, deliberately lowering her self-esteem. It seems to him that if he inspires her that she is no one, she does everything wrong and does not shine with beauty, this will become a guarantee that his wife will not run away anywhere. Who will need this? But the effect is the opposite.

Female adultery - reasons for adultery

Not feeling emotions from her man, the woman begins to wither and grow dim. And then - imagine - she meets a person who sees something special in her, who does not hide his charm, treats her almost like a goddess of his heart. It is difficult to resist such a charm, the barriers of conscience and morality may not keep her from wanting to feel loved again. This is how some of the women break down, deciding to cheat. We do not justify their behavior, we simply explain the motives: cheating is dictated not by weakness or lust, but by a lack of love.

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