Communication with the dominant interlocutor

As interlocutors, people can be divided into several types, but there are two directions that most generally indicate to us the type of interlocutor with whom we communicate. This is a dominant - non-dominant interlocutor, mobile and rigid interlocutors. In this article, we will analyze the peculiarity of the dominant interlocutor, as well as the methods of communicating with him. Dominant interlocutors are not uncommon these days, they can be identified immediately after the first minute of the conversation. When communicating with a dominant interlocutor, you feel pressure from him, he is quite assertive, often clearly expresses his position, constantly shortens the distance between you. Mentally, he suppresses you, rushing at you like a tank, not paying attention to your discomfort, in this regard, not caring whether you understand him or not, whether he interests you at all. He can communicate in a rather high emotional tone, which is almost impossible to interrupt.

If you start to say something, you will probably be sure to be repeatedly interrupted, your arguments may be followed by ridicule on his part, gestures characterizing indifference or misunderstanding. All these are techniques of mental suppression, depriving you of self-confidence, so that you admit that you are wrong and begin to doubt yourself. He does not consider it necessary to answer your questions, thereby demonstrating the frivolity of your words and yourself.

The dominant interlocutor may suddenly become silent, pause, so that you repeat your arguments over and over again, demonstrating incomprehension and bewilderment, and a high degree of concentration. You start to get lost in conjectures, sort out your arguments and arguments, trying to find out if they understand you and your position. In fact, the dominant does not care about your position, his task is to hammer his position into you, establish his own rules, impose his point of view. If he listens to you, he will ask a lot of clarifying questions, with a certain degree of doubt, which will certainly put pressure on you and cause a feeling of self-doubt. Dominants will never admit they are wrong, and even if you manage to convince him of something, then the praise in this regard will be quite noisy and emotional with such a feeling as if he finally waited for something useful from you. This is naturally also a show of strength, alsosubconsciously putting pressure on your psyche. Dominant people have their advantages, they are good speakers and leaders who can lead. Such a person is not afraid at a difficult moment to take responsibility for what is happening, to make a decision, to direct the actions of others in the right direction. In a word, these people are diligently trying to distinguish themselves from the rest, strive to take everything into their own hands, yearn for fame and recognition, do not recognize any other role than the role of a leader.

There can be several ways to communicate with such people, depending on what kind of interlocutor you are. If you are the same dominant interlocutor, then a conflict situation is not excluded, and depending on the purpose of communication and advocacy of interests, a conflict may be the only solution to agree. This is really so, because only by feeling the character and strength of the interlocutor, the dominant person can show respect to him. If you are not such a person, but more restrained and less aggressive, then you are recommended to use other methods of communication with such people. Dominants usually rely on the panic of their interlocutor, his reaction to provocation, thereby strengthening their position. Therefore, you should not do this, behave as if communicating with such an aggressive interlocutor is a common thing for you, and even feeling discomfort and nervousness, in no case do not demonstrate this. Let it show its dynamism andperseverance, do not interfere with him, react freely to any provocations, agree, admit the correctness of the dominant interlocutor, admit his strength. And at the moment when he wants to receive an answer from you as a result of your efforts, pause and calmly, confidently, without a grain of doubt, repeat your position, insisting on your demands. This will already stun him, for you will demonstrate your determination, courage, show that you are not afraid of a barking dog.

Another example is less common, but sometimes it can be applied. This behavior is similar to the previous one, playing like a giveaway to the dominant, and then suddenly, with great power, you begin to show aggression and harshness in communication. The dominant interlocutor seems to think that you have succumbed to the provocation, that there may be a conflict, that you have managed to piss off yourself. But just like a sudden explosion on your part, calm and rational reasoning follows, to which you return, after powerful pressure on the interlocutor. Probably even a dominant person does not really want to wake up the beast in you again, and therefore will behave more restrained. And finally, the last technique, the most common in communicating with dominant people, with a dominant interlocutor, is a complete agreement with his position. This is often used in diplomacy, when it seems that all agreements have been resolved, but thenit turns out that the person still did his own thing, explaining this by a banal revision of his position, or by a misunderstanding of the interlocutor. This is a soft position, quite cunning, as already mentioned, it is mainly used in politics, where there is nothing to unnecessary conflicts, where the main thing is to defend your interests, even with the most vile and deceitful methods.

With this method, you need to answer evasively, avoid specifics, do not indicate clear terms for the implementation of the agreement, refer to third parties in making a decision, say that you need to think or consult. Only if the interlocutor strongly insists on specifics, you can agree with him, because you can always find a reason to change your mind. These are actually the main ways of communicating with dominant interlocutors, which one you choose to use yourself, here, as already mentioned, it all depends on your character. The main thing is to remember that you should not be afraid of communicating with any people, there is always the opportunity to outplay any interlocutor, to defend your position and your interests, in general, to come to the result that you need. So do not think about defeat, no matter what your character and the character of your interlocutor may be.

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