Feelings of fear and anxiety are an excellent driving force, so powerful that they can move any person. Fear originates from our basic natural instinct, the survival instinct, the instinct that is embedded in every living thing on the planet to survive and continue its kind. This is so obvious that we do not even notice it, thinking and guessing about the nature of man and looking for the reason for some of his actions. But not everyone is blind, there are enough literate people who have excellent knowledge of psychology who manage to organize unconscious groups of people and induce them to take actions that are necessary for these people. The driving factor is fear and anxiety, as a result of which a person simply cannot relax. A relaxed and calm person does not feel the need to do something, and his natural craving for knowledge does not have enough strength to overcomedifficulties that inevitably arise in everyone's life.
And only fear turns a person into a superman, which through I can’t do the impossible. Even a slight feeling of anxiety already makes us look for answers to the questions that arise, and the stronger this anxiety, the more active the person's actions. Is it not the fear of being hungry that forces a person to do at least some work, physical or mental, but work? The whole world and the order in it are kept on fear, a feeling that turns out to be very useful for a person if he learns to control it. And you can control your fear only by provoking it in yourself, and, accordingly, through the fear of your own production, to do what you need, and not others. Perhaps some of you will say that you don't have to be afraid of anything, you have to be brave and then you can win. And those who think so are actually right, only this is what a person's courage is, if not the fear that he can control.to govern. Only fools are not afraid of anything, who, as a rule, do not win. Yes, you smile at least ten times before death, whether you are afraid of it or not, if you are dead, you can no longer change anything, and this is not courage, but stupidity to deliberately go to death.
Sometimes, when there is no other choice, people of course have to sacrifice themselves, and for this they have to subjugate their fear, but not give up on it, which is in opposition to nature. Therefore, there should be fear, if you artificially deprive a person of this feeling, then he is no longer a person, a normal person, like all living things, must cling to life, not being afraid of death, and not find the courage to die. Therefore, only fear controlled by a person, when he clearly realizes what he is afraid of and why, and why he needs it at all, allows him to act according to his interests, deliberately and calmly, without giving out his fear to others. But uncontrolled and unconscious fear, which we can observe during a panic, or when people are afraid and inactive, which is meaningless, this is already harmful, and destructive for a person. In general, as a psychologist, I always welcome flexibility, resourcefulness,cunning and two-facedness, that is, everything that allows you to manipulate other people. And no matter how all this is perceived in our society, which actually perceives everything in a negative light, which makes a person stronger, such behavior is natural for a person.
If you are physically weak, you must be cunning or clever; if you are strong, you must take advantage of the weak. In general, a person should be a chameleon, know his strengths and weaknesses, and hide flaws, skillfully use his merits. And what makes a person do all this is right, this is fear, and therefore the need to survive, in any way. I have never welcomed the samurai approach to life, which many still profess today. For them, saving face is stupidly killing themselves, that is, influencing the opinion of others, to which a normal person, in principle, does not care. But having survived, you can always influence events and replay the situation, so pride and perseverance in this case do not justify themselves. A living person can change everything in this world that did not suit him, he can call to account all who once humiliated him, a dead person does notmaybe, by dying, a person relinquishes responsibility for life.
For each of us, death will come in due time, we will all die, therefore one should not rush the inevitable, just as one should be afraid of it, one should think about life. That is why all these heroic deaths, which the suicide bombers so brag about, sacrificing themselves, for the sake of what they think is great idea, you cannot call courage, it is rather a hopelessness, and as I said, a dead person cannot win, but a living person always There is a chance. All this I mean is that fear prompts a person to both deliberate and rash actions, fear of death, as well as its absence, are not the basis for rational thinking. On the one hand, fear of the inevitable takes away from solving truly important problems, to do something in this life so as not to live it in vain. On the other hand, parting with life, in order to be thought of as a hero, is just stupid, no matter how you keep your face, they will still forget about you,and you won't change anything. Fear should be used as a means to change the world, and this can only be done by a living and healthy person.
The world in which you personally want to live and what you want to leave to your descendants is your handiwork, and only the feeling of fear that if you do not do this, someone else will do it, forcing a person to act. Scare yourself that others may scare you, therefore you should not be afraid, because fear of fear is what is the cure for it. Fear is a great way to manipulate people, one way or another, but everyone can be intimidated. Every person is afraid of something, but he is afraid if he is a normal person, and not an idiot, who are still of little use. And since a person is afraid, it means he will do something, trying to satisfy the hunger of his fear, so why not direct these actions in the direction you need? To act as a savior, a deliverer from fear, or to give a good recipe, this is what many people love to do. Someone does it well, someone does it badly.
But both globally and locally, a person who skillfully imposes his fears on others and helps them to get rid of them, finds his fans who huddle in a herd of mindless rams around him. Well, it turns out that fear is really necessary for managing people, this world implies the presence of both a leader and a follower, and as they say, the eagle flies alone, and the rams graze in a herd. Therefore, choosing your path in life, decide how you will use your fear, without control over which, you will not be able to feel free, because either you control your fear and control it, or it controls and controls you.