If you have never had depression, it will be difficult for you to understand what a person is experiencing in this state - and therefore your words of support for the patient may sound like a reproach. We tell you exactly what you can’t say so as not to hurt him.

1. This is just a weakness of character, you need to pull yourself together

No, it doesn't work like that. Depression is a real disease, and a very serious one. It is diagnosed and treated, and it is also possible to die from this disorder. You do not offer to pull yourself together for a person with diabetes or a broken leg? Here, too, such advice will not work: the patient needs a psychotherapist and antidepressants.

2. It's all in your head

True, but that doesn't make it any easier. With depression, the biochemistry of the brain and the hormonal background in the body change - and this is something more serious than "you wind yourself up."

3. In Africa, in general, children are starving.

Have mercy on your loved one and it is so bad right now. From the fact that the world is unfair and terrible, the disease will not go away - rather, on the contrary, it will become even worse.

4. I would like your problems

Usually after this reproach, a half-hour story about his hard life also follows. But it makes no sense: people get depressed in different circumstances. And even family, children, career and money don’t protect against it – if you don’t believe me, remember the suicide story of Linkin Park lead singer Chester Bennington.

5. You are so selfish, you do not appreciate my help at all.

It's not about you - it's just that depression takes all your strength. Even simple things like getting out of bed, showering, and eating take a lot of effort. A person now has no resources for communication and gratitude: all this requires bestowal. Most likely, he appreciates your support (or will appreciate it after recovery), but simply cannot respond to it in the way he did before.

6. You just need to unwind / exercise / get out of the house more often

Yes, such things can alleviate the patient's condition. But here's the problem: with moderate or severe depression, they have absolutely no strength. The main thing a patient needs is a doctor.

7. Yes, yes, I also had depression once.

Do not confuse it with a bad mood: this disease can last for years.

8. Yes, you smile and even go to parties, everything is fine with you!

Have you ever heard the phrase “Depression has no face”? Well, it's 100% true. Yes, a person can smile and laugh - and the next day commit suicide.

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